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So why does boniness give some of us a boner? Part of it may have to do with
chronology - there's something about a thin physique that says "young" or "boyish."
As one porn maven points out, "You're more likely to see bods that are frankly
skinny when you go to a twink website than to one that focuses on more mature men."
Then, too, a thin guy looks more vulnerable than a pecs-and-abs gym rat, and any
number of men - especially top guys - find that way hot. As one man into slim
Jims says, "When I see a really skinny fellow, there's something about him that
just seems needy. I want to take him home and feed him...and then fuck the hell
out of him."
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And bony boys also possess an androgynous appeal. While female fashion models are
often vanishingly thin, "masculine" usually translates into a fair amount of bulk
and beef; guys turned on by "boyish" and "not-so-butch," though, are more likely
to gravitate to the underweight.
Though many men are into thin, some take their tastes to extremes, stroking off to
photos of emaciated fellows. There are even online groups for fanciers of zero-fat
bodies, replete with pics of men who are damn near skeletal. That's where the skinniness
fetish can get a little edgy, eroticising men who look like they have anorexia or AIDS.
"There's something unbelievably exciting about the combination of a really big hard-on
and hipbones that stick way the hell out, though a thin guy looking enormously endowed
may just be a matter of context," says the slim-Jim chaser. "But I really crave
superthin men with countable ribs, however they're hung. They look so lithe and
elegant. That doesn't mean I think that guys should be starving themselves to death.
But let's face it, science tells us that being underweight is less dangerous than
having a bearish belly - or taking steroids to bulk up, for that matter."
And then there's the actual sex involved. "I'm pretty husky myself," says a biggish
man. "But my lover's not, and I totally enjoy being able to wrap my arms around
his skinny torso, to put my hands around his really small waist. It feels great
to me. And it's so cool to be able to lift him up while I'm fucking him."
And on the other side of the low-weight equation, even the thinnest among us
deserve to be desired. "I was born thin, I've always been scrawny," says one
9 stoner, "and I enjoy being a sex object."
You need not be as negative as one bear who denounces "underfed boys into
heroin chic" to agree that a love for visible ribs and bony shoulders is
very much a minority taste among queer men. But there's plenty of room for
all sorts of sexual appetites, including a hunger for those who look hungry. And
as with any fetish, worrying about the "why" may seem a bit foolish to those who
share the bent. So if some men find matchstick legs a cause for masturbation (and
if the objects of their affection are naturally thin, not due to speed use or an
eating disorder), well, hey, they simply believe that, as the saying goes, "You can
never be too rich or too thin."
Or at least too skeletal and too sexy.
Simon Sheppard
Simon writes every week in OutUK on
just about every imaginable aspect of gay sex in Sex Talk.
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